Most Difficult Times For Break Ups

A break up is not easy during any time of the year but the devastation seems to be extremely hard to bear during the holidays and special occasions. Knowing what to do and what not to do can help with this difficult phase.

An unexpected break up of a valued relationship can be difficult to deal with at any time of the year. But when the holidays or special occasions roll around the devastation can even be worse.

It seems that during the holiday season you, like everyone else is expected to be happy and jolly. But when your heart is broken this is a difficult thing to do. You may find ways to hide your hurt while you are with others but when you are alone all the pain and gloom returns.

You might even feel some comfort in the fact that during those alone times you are free to cry or shout or whatever it is that helps you deal with the problem. And unless you are really good at hiding your distress you probably have well-meaning friends that want to help you out of that dark place you are in.

They may try to match you up with someone they know or they may simply tell you that you need to forget about the past and move on. This article is not intended to do either of those things. Instead, I want to let you know that most relationships can be repaired.

And you should also know that the holidays can be an excellent time to plan a make up with an ex. But first there are a few things to be considered:

1) Is this relationship worth saving
2) Are you ready for a make up
3) Do you still have a place in the heart of your ex
4) Will your ex consider a reunion of any kind
5) Will a make up last

First of all you need to evaluate the relationship and what you are missing about it. Consider the type of interactions that you had with your ex on a regular basis during the good times of the relationship. If the relationship was abusive in anyway then it should not be a tremendous loss to let it remain in the past. But if most of the relationship was fun and interesting then it is probably worth saving.

Decide if you are truly ready for a make up. Determine if a relationship with your ex is really what you want and if it fits in with who you are at this moment in time. It is possible that you have changed in some way since the break up.

Next you will need to determine if your ex still thinks of you in a special way. Regardless of the way the relationship ended it is possible that your ex is missing you as badly as you are missing him or her.

If you determine that your ex does in fact still care then you will need to come up with a way to communicate with him or her. Depending on the circumstances this may need to start with a text message, an email or a phone call. Next you can hopefully move on to spending some real time with your ex.

That will give you an opportunity to determine if the relationship is viable and if a reunion would last. If you feel that a make up would only last until the next break up then you may be better off avoiding heartbreak in the future and simply remaining friends with your ex. You see, in the end it is you that will need to decide the value of the relationship with your ex and how determined you are to make things work.