The average person becomes involved in at least a few relationships before finding one that is right. This is probably a good thing because the failed relationships are really not failures at all.
Like anything in life, when we do not totally succeed we should consider the experience as valuable because we were presented with the opportunity to learn. If you look back over your own or other relationships that you are familiar with that did not work for some reason you can learn more about what makes a lasting relationship.
For me it seems that honesty is essential in a trusting relationship. I have even known couples that had open relationships but if the honesty was not complete then there were problems.
When I consider the relationships that I have in my life and relationships of others that I am aware of it appears that the best ones involve two friends. I am sure that most if not all relationships begin with at least some form of friendship.
We meet someone, we think they are perfect for us, and the relationship continues. This is where many of us make a mistake. We assume that because this person seems so perfect for us that things will continue in a positive manner forever without any work on our part.
Whether you consider it work or fun, when the two of you are discussing hobbies, work, families, friends, or anything else you should be using that time to explore any areas that the two of you can use to increase the bond you already have.
For instance, if you both like to read but you like different types of books you could regular trips to your local bookstore and you could explore the shelves together. I know this does not sound like a lot but if this becomes a habit for your time together it will become a special time together.
You do not have to find extravagant or expensive things that will bond you. There are low-cost classes for practically any topic you can think of. Taking a class together means that you are committing to a long term project together. That in itself is a way of committing to one another.
Not only will you spend the time together but something like that helps to build memories that you will treasure for years to come. Be the best friend you can be to your partner and expect nothing less from him or her.
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Thursday
Take The Time To Get To Know Your Partner
I know this sounds silly to stress but it really is important that you truly know your partner. Learn everything you can about him or her. This not only adds to your friendship but it puts you in a great position in lots of other ways as well.
For example, if you truly know your partner then you will understand his or her actions better. You will understand and accept the way they behave because you are in touch with their inner self.
Another advantage will be when it comes to buying your partner gifts. If you really know what matters to your partner then you won't have to wonder what would be a well appreciated gift.
Ideally you will take the time to know and understand your partner before the relationship grows and continue this learning process throughout the process. Just a thought for the day.....if you need to know your partner better then why not begin working on that right now? Dedicate at least 20 to 30 minutes today for a real conversation with your partner. Make it focused on your partner. Ask open-ended questions so you get real responses instead of a yes or no answer.
Then continue the art of conversation with your partner daily. You may find out that he or she is more interesting than you thought!
For example, if you truly know your partner then you will understand his or her actions better. You will understand and accept the way they behave because you are in touch with their inner self.
Another advantage will be when it comes to buying your partner gifts. If you really know what matters to your partner then you won't have to wonder what would be a well appreciated gift.
Ideally you will take the time to know and understand your partner before the relationship grows and continue this learning process throughout the process. Just a thought for the day.....if you need to know your partner better then why not begin working on that right now? Dedicate at least 20 to 30 minutes today for a real conversation with your partner. Make it focused on your partner. Ask open-ended questions so you get real responses instead of a yes or no answer.
Then continue the art of conversation with your partner daily. You may find out that he or she is more interesting than you thought!
Tuesday
The Difficulties Of Dealing With A Break Up
Break ups are never easy. It really does not matter which side of the fence you are on - a break up forces changes in your life. And let's face it, some of us do not like changes of any kind.
That alone can make the break up difficult to accept. After all, you had things working in a sort of system or routine - you basically knew what you would be doing, where you would be doing, and who you would be with - that is, until the break up.
When you mix in the fact that you are devastated by your loss it is understandable that you are depressed and miserable. But that is not what this post is about. This post is to provide encouragement and support.
I always encourage people living through such a difficult time to allow a few days or even a week to accept and adjust to the idea of the change. I know that the sadness and feeling of loss may continue for a lot longer but you mentally need time to adjust. During this period you should allow yourself to seek refuge in a comfortable place (staying home is a popular choice) and to verbalize your feelings and even openly cry (it is healthy to vent your emotions).
But at the end of that stage you need to move forward. Start by focusing on being good to yourself and getting to know you - the person that has been hiding since during your relationship days. Get in touch with that person that has been neglected in some way and make it up to yourself.
This is a great time to read a self-development or self-improvement book. Focus on building your confidence and self-esteem. In other words, be all you can be. This makes you a stronger and more attractive person.
It is at that time that you can really begin moving into the future. If you want your ex back then you will be ready to work on that. If you want to leave the past behind you and move forward you will be a pillar of strength that is ready for a new beginning.
I always say that things happen for a reason and they turn out just the way they are supposed to. It is our job to allow the good to come to us. Be sure to sign up to receive your free report on "Building Lasting Relationships" - use the form in the sidebar. If you need help getting through a break up you should consider "The Magic Of Making Up" - that book has helped lots of people and it is going strong - watch the videos on this blog and check out the ebooks available. You will find the help you need!
Best of luck in all you do!
That alone can make the break up difficult to accept. After all, you had things working in a sort of system or routine - you basically knew what you would be doing, where you would be doing, and who you would be with - that is, until the break up.
When you mix in the fact that you are devastated by your loss it is understandable that you are depressed and miserable. But that is not what this post is about. This post is to provide encouragement and support.
I always encourage people living through such a difficult time to allow a few days or even a week to accept and adjust to the idea of the change. I know that the sadness and feeling of loss may continue for a lot longer but you mentally need time to adjust. During this period you should allow yourself to seek refuge in a comfortable place (staying home is a popular choice) and to verbalize your feelings and even openly cry (it is healthy to vent your emotions).
But at the end of that stage you need to move forward. Start by focusing on being good to yourself and getting to know you - the person that has been hiding since during your relationship days. Get in touch with that person that has been neglected in some way and make it up to yourself.
This is a great time to read a self-development or self-improvement book. Focus on building your confidence and self-esteem. In other words, be all you can be. This makes you a stronger and more attractive person.
It is at that time that you can really begin moving into the future. If you want your ex back then you will be ready to work on that. If you want to leave the past behind you and move forward you will be a pillar of strength that is ready for a new beginning.
I always say that things happen for a reason and they turn out just the way they are supposed to. It is our job to allow the good to come to us. Be sure to sign up to receive your free report on "Building Lasting Relationships" - use the form in the sidebar. If you need help getting through a break up you should consider "The Magic Of Making Up" - that book has helped lots of people and it is going strong - watch the videos on this blog and check out the ebooks available. You will find the help you need!
Best of luck in all you do!
Monday
Can Your Relationship Go The Distance In Life?
Sometimes I get questions from people wanting to know if I think their relationship will last. Sadly I cannot predict which relationships are strong enough to survive life's up and downs and which are not.
But you should have a good understanding of how strong your relationship really is. I always advocate building a relationship on a solid foundation of friendship. The truth is that those are the relationships that seem to not only survive but they actually thrive as time goes on.
If your relationship was not founded on friendship then it will be necessary to build that friendship as time goes on. Don't worry, lots of couples start their relationship without a solid friendship and they build it over time. As long as you become great friends the rest will be much easier - after all, you already have the love that is necessary for a great bond!
In building or strengthening your relationship work on doing things together that you both enjoy. Engage in real conversations. Spend time together doing whatever possible. Hold hands and cuddle up. Learn all you can about one another and add an activity to your relationship that will create a new bond.
With love and friendship your relationship will go far!!!
But you should have a good understanding of how strong your relationship really is. I always advocate building a relationship on a solid foundation of friendship. The truth is that those are the relationships that seem to not only survive but they actually thrive as time goes on.
If your relationship was not founded on friendship then it will be necessary to build that friendship as time goes on. Don't worry, lots of couples start their relationship without a solid friendship and they build it over time. As long as you become great friends the rest will be much easier - after all, you already have the love that is necessary for a great bond!
In building or strengthening your relationship work on doing things together that you both enjoy. Engage in real conversations. Spend time together doing whatever possible. Hold hands and cuddle up. Learn all you can about one another and add an activity to your relationship that will create a new bond.
With love and friendship your relationship will go far!!!
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