The Difficulties Of Dealing With A Break Up

Break ups are never easy. It really does not matter which side of the fence you are on - a break up forces changes in your life. And let's face it, some of us do not like changes of any kind.

That alone can make the break up difficult to accept. After all, you had things working in a sort of system or routine - you basically knew what you would be doing, where you would be doing, and who you would be with - that is, until the break up.

When you mix in the fact that you are devastated by your loss it is understandable that you are depressed and miserable. But that is not what this post is about. This post is to provide encouragement and support.

I always encourage people living through such a difficult time to allow a few days or even a week to accept and adjust to the idea of the change. I know that the sadness and feeling of loss may continue for a lot longer but you mentally need time to adjust. During this period you should allow yourself to seek refuge in a comfortable place (staying home is a popular choice) and to verbalize your feelings and even openly cry (it is healthy to vent your emotions).

But at the end of that stage you need to move forward. Start by focusing on being good to yourself and getting to know you - the person that has been hiding since during your relationship days. Get in touch with that person that has been neglected in some way and make it up to yourself.

This is a great time to read a self-development or self-improvement book. Focus on building your confidence and self-esteem. In other words, be all you can be. This makes you a stronger and more attractive person.

It is at that time that you can really begin moving into the future. If you want your ex back then you will be ready to work on that. If you want to leave the past behind you and move forward you will be a pillar of strength that is ready for a new beginning.

I always say that things happen for a reason and they turn out just the way they are supposed to. It is our job to allow the good to come to us. Be sure to sign up to receive your free report on "Building Lasting Relationships" - use the form in the sidebar. If you need help getting through a break up you should consider "The Magic Of Making Up" - that book has helped lots of people and it is going strong - watch the videos on this blog and check out the ebooks available. You will find the help you need!

Best of luck in all you do!