A Little About Me

I thought I would tell you about myself and my background. I just wanted you to understand how and why I am involved in relationship information and advice.

First of all, you need to know that my life experiences have been varied. Because of that I have had all types of relationships and met some very interesting people along the way.

I married my first husband when I was only 19. I really think the appeal was the adventure of being married - I just wanted to try it because as a little girl I had always dreamed about growing up and being married. Well that marriage ended in divorce 4 1/2 years later. However, I did have a beautiful daughter during that time.

Although I did not marry again for a few years I was constantly involved with the man that I am now married to, my life partner. I cannot say that it was love at first sight for us but I will say that he completely rocked my world after I got to know him.

When we got married I was a stay at home mom. That is what we both wanted. Within the first few years of marriage we had two sons. Life was great - for awhile. But soon I realized that I wanted more in my life than cleaning house and taking care of others. How ironic is this - I decided to go to nursing school.

After receiving my BSN I worked at a large psychiatric hospital. You probably know that nurses have to work odd hours sometimes. My shift was 7p to 7a. It did not take long for that to have a negative impact on my marriage and my family life.

I moved into administration. I became the Nurse Educator. I did that for about 7 years and then I moved into Organizational Development. I became a practitioner and I went back to school. That is when I found my attraction to the Internet.

Throughout all of this my marriage has had its ups and downs. In fact, my husband and I even separated for a period of about six months.

Anyway, the psychiatric background has helped me in all aspects of my life...including my understanding of others and relationships. I also should add that living life adds to anyone's knowledge base.

My kids are all grown now. I also raised a girl from the age of 15 on. That's a long story but I feel in my heart that she is also my daughter. Amazingly she and my youngest son are now together. I am very fortunate!

So after living and learning and researching and studying I have learned a lot about relationships. I am a good listener - I've always been told that and people have always come to me for advice. I am always amazed that most people really only want someone to listen to them. I know that is true because many times I have listened to a friend or colleague only be told that they appreciated my advice. In reality I did not give advice, instead I offered to really listen to them and allow them to vent.

You see most people already have the answers to their problems but until they have an opportunity to talk about it they don't realize it. Or perhaps it is easier to do something that maybe you don't want to do if you can tell yourself that someone else thinks that is what you should do...

Okay - that's enough about me! The point is that I love learning and researching about human interactions and relationships. I want to help you in anyway that I can.