How To Get Your Ex Back; Part Two

After all the work you have done to get yourself back in great emotional shape you do not need to do anything that will put that at risk. So if you contact your ex you need to be prepared for whatever may happen. It is always wise to determine where you stand with your ex before contacting him or her. In many cases this is done through a mutual friend.

But you should begin slowly regardless of how things seem to be going. An 'accidental' meeting could be arranged with the sole purpose being to say hello and a real quick conversation. This initial meeting should be very brief. Another option is to call your ex. I suggest that you plan a purpose behind the call. There is usually something left behind by the ex that you could call him or her about. Or you could just call and say that you wanted to say hi and see how he or she was doing. This should be acceptable since you were so important to each other such a short time ago.

The initial meeting should allow you to determine if your ex has an interest in the relationship. Remember to keep the first meeting brief. This includes phone calls. Keep in mind that you have been working on making yourself stronger. Let that strength shine through.

If the initial meeting or phone call results in your ex asking about a date or another meeting of some sort remember to move ahead slowly. I am not suggesting that you play hard to get, but I am cautioning you against jumping right back into the relationship.

I know that it is hard to resist but you need to keep in mind that your goal is to create a lasting relationship. Obviously there were problems with the relationship in the past. If those issues are not clearly defined, addressed, and resolved they will rear their ugly heads again.

Do not set yourself up for another failed relationship. This time work on developing an open, respectful, honest, and trusting relationship. This will be built on a strong foundation of friendship. The only other ingredient required is love and you already have that.

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